We still have judgments upon us, that we but teach bloody instructions which being taught, return to plague the inventor. This even-handed justice commends the ingredients of our poisoned chalice to our own lips: From Macbeth by William Shakespeare.

If you’re in marital relationship now that you probably think is a big mess you shouldn’t have got yourself involved in in the first place, you would want to break up with your partner. “More haste less speed”, they say- you need to take some time out and reevaluate your thoughts: is it really what you want? Or, are you calling it a quit the right way?

In this sense, divorce is like a war with terrible aftermath. If not careful planned, it has a way of rebounding upon oneself. Now that you’ve reached climax, what you need is a relief rather than a war. In a bid and quest to salvage, for the sake of your family’s protection, you need collaborative divorce.

Under collaborative divorce arrangements, the two parties involved- the husband and wife, on their own volition come to terms about child custody, alimony and other post-marital issues. This involves a legal process in which they both sign a document- “agreement for participation” for peaceful and hassle-free separation, thus eliminating court proceedings, litigation, and most importantly, future discord between parents.

Over the last decade, in the United States collaborative divorce has gained much more popularity than the old traditional divorce method. It has become the most peaceful effective and mature way of rendering the last resorts in marital breakups and or disputes. It is a platform for fair judgment. Litigation cost and red tap are eliminated and the break isn’t publicized or brought to public attention.

Mediation in collaborative divorce:  mediation usually renders the best and last resorts in collaborative and family divorce and issues alike. The two parties involved in a conflict, under the guidance of a mediator, a third party, settle their differences through dialogue and negotiation. In contrast to court arrangements, the two disputing parties get to participate fully in the conflict resolution process. Their interests usually influence the judgment and final results.

The mediator who is an expert in alternative dispute resolution properly guides the two parties by employing the best methods to facilitate communication and interaction them. He ensures that he achieves the best outcome for both parties. Collaborative law protects the privacy and confidentiality of mediation.

Most lawyers and attorneys who provide mediation services are trained to keep all collaborative divorce cases secret. As time evolves and collaborative and family law becomes more popular, more programs have been put in place to offer better training as well as certifications to mediators.

Ultimately, there are many benefits of collaborative divorce as well as mediation to disputing parties: cost efficiency, confidentiality, privacy, support of a mediator who’s most interested in the optimum outcome for conflicting parties, mutuality and full control over the case the parties. All that said, why publicize your ills to the world. Or better still, isn’t worthwhile to skip all the red tape, litigation and yet still end your relationship without a war? That’s up you.